The Resonate Podcast with Aideen

Intuitive Brand Design with Liz Ellery

• Aideen Ni Riada • Season 1 • Episode 75

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This week, Aideen's guest is branding and website designer Liz Ellery, who shares her intuitive approach to helping business owners create authentic brands that reflect their true selves.

They chat about:

• Using intuition as a guide for both business decisions and design work
• Learning to trust your "gut feeling" instead of following others' formulas
• The physical body as an "early warning system" for when something isn't aligned
• How personal development work directly impacts professional authenticity
• Creating brand visuals and websites that capture a client's genuine energy
• The importance of stepping into who you're becoming through small daily choices
• Cultivating self-compassion and gratitude as foundations for authentic branding

For anyone struggling with their business identity or personal brand, Liz offers practical wisdom: make small, intuitive choices daily, embrace incremental upgrades that align with who you're becoming, and practice self-compassion throughout the process. These seemingly minor shifts—like finally buying those white towels she'd always associated with "rich ladies"—become symbolic steps toward embracing your authentic self and reflecting that in your brand.

Check out Liz's beautiful design work and feel the energy for yourself by visiting her website.

Connect with Liz

Website: elizabethellery.com

Website2: shessointentional.com



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Aideen Ni Riada:

Welcome to the Resonate podcast with Aideen. I'm Aideen Ni Riada, and my guest today is Liz Ellery, and she is a good friend of mine. I'm so excited to be chatting with her today. You guys are going to enjoy a really interesting conversation, and Liz is a branding and website designer with over 15 years experience. Her sole aim is to make her clients fall in love with their online presence. She's helped over 100 business owners shine online by creating truly soul, deep, authentic brands using her intuitive design skills, and it's the intuitive piece that, I think, is one of the amazing things about you, Liz, that I really want to let people hear about, because how many people really do trust their intuition? I'm not sure that that many do.

Liz Ellery:

I know and thank you, thank you so much for having me. I, yeah, I think more and more we're hearing about intuition and a lot when you listen to which which I do a lot of business podcasts and when you ever have these entrepreneurs on, they always say, whenever they've done something in business and they've gone against their gut which is what you know, everybody says when it's your intuition, when you go against your gut, then you kind of make a wrong decision. Against your gut, then you kind of make a wrong decision. So you need to follow that feeling a lot more, which is how I design and it's very emotive and I listen to. You know how I feel inside. It's quite a visceral, body-like thing for me when I'm designing for somebody and and also like in the heart and do, I feel that this is my client's authentic self that I'm designing, and it's all energy-based as well.

Liz Ellery:

Have you always trusted your intuition? Yeah, it's just been something quite innate within me that, oh, and I've done it a lot throughout my life, especially my 30s, um, and even actually from a very young age I I remember knowing exactly what I wanted to do and I never deviated from that, and from the age of 13 to 30,. You know, I had a career that I wanted to do since that young age and I just followed that intuition. And then, when something didn't start feeling right again, that's when I made a change and yeah, I've always been this way. Wow, yeah, I've always been this way.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Wow, I mean that's such a blessing, I guess, because I know for myself I do tend to veer off track. You know, you start to look at somebody else and what they're doing and I have a strong self-doubt. That can kind of come in and then I can get a little bit off track. But the intuitive part is where all the good stuff has happened, for my business as well. So I really understand how beneficial it is.

Liz Ellery:

I think, when you just said that, that actually I say that I always follow my intuition and I do with big decisions so, and I am getting better at fine-tuning it more in in the smaller things.

Liz Ellery:

So when I remember feeling very unhappy in towards the end of my 20s, early 30s, with my job and you know, I loved my job and I liked who I worked with but, um, something didn't feel right and I think it was like there's surely there's more to life than this, and I didn't know what it was, and I actually ended up in hospital with a really severe pain in my stomach and the first thing the doctor said to me was he felt my stomach and then he said are you happy? And then I burst into tears and I think that was such, um, that was such a turning point for me to be like, okay, this is actually my body is like, that's a visceral thing. If you need to do something different and um, so I did I started following my intuitions, doing different things and being okay with that not being the exact path. Maybe that I wanted. I had such a clear vision. I always wanted to be a fashion designer. Um, and that's what I wanted to do from the age of 13.

Liz Ellery:

I went to college, university, got a job in London, was doing it for 10 years, um, and then, when you don't know what you want to do.

Liz Ellery:

That is where your intuition, you just sort of follow these little paths and keep going along them. And because it wasn't this big, almighty like thing that I wanted to do, like the fashion sign, I just followed those intuitively. And then, when I landed on what I'm doing now, which is being a personal branding and website designer, and I'm also starting to do some other other more spiritual law of attraction things as well in my business now, um was how you just said there, how you sort of veer off course, like I know, like the main path I want to be on, but it is. The comparison does come in when I think my business I was up and down for five years, like you know, like massive, you know feast and famine, like huge months, and then very quiet months. And, um, that's where I start following these other people and thinking I should be doing it like that, should be doing it like this. And it was only when I I did a couple of things.

Liz Ellery:

I spoke to another website designer who designed like me, who was an intuitive designer, because I only know a few at the time and she said to me that how she gets her business and she's very successful financially was all from referrals and I thought, well, that's not okay, it can't just be for referrals. But when she said that it kind of gave me permission and I just let that be okay and, um, that that was how I could get my um, get my clients in and all of these, I started seeing how all these other people were doing things in business and it was all like these very technical client relation management systems like CRMs and very techie, and I just use Google Docs and I think what I realized that my clients didn't care because they just loved that. I got to know them and their energy and that was the special thing. It wasn't really the deliverable of them going through a tech platform.

Liz Ellery:

Yes, and I think it's. It's those things, like you just said, how in your business it's kind of gone a bit. It's not maybe gone how you'd wanted it to when you start doing that. So that's as soon as I started making those decisions. It was like five years in for the small things. That's when I started seeing how incredible it was, when I started listening more to the small, intuitive hits that good, huge results happened amazing?

Aideen Ni Riada:

yeah, because I think what we find uncomfortable is not knowing, and I've been through a phase of rebranding that's, you know, why you're on the show today is because I grabbed the chance to work with you on my new website, which is basically tweaking what I used to do. I started my business teaching singing in order to gain confidence, and now it's more about voice in general. But that phase of not knowing is so uncomfortable and you can just feel it. I mean having your body, like in terms of your health, tell you something like I'm just fascinated that the doctor would say are you happy?

Liz Ellery:

well, yes, so he was, um, I think he was, you know, practicing from like eastern medicine and it was, I'm talking about maybe nine years ago and that was like before. All you know, I think people understood this a lot more and, um, and I thought it was incredible when he said that to me and and I do know that I can feel things in my body when I'm not in a great place and stuff, and it is very potent when you, you know, I've got friends that have got like one of my friends has got repeatedly had problems in her hip, and you can look into all the eastern medicine and they will say that there's, you know, or if you've got something in your throat that it's like your voice isn't being able to be heard, yes, it's like a my teacher, my meditation teacher, calls it an early warning system.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Like that, we get these early warning signs of things we're being asked to pay attention in some way, and if we don't understand that, our body is trying to speak to us about everything going on in our lives, it's not just the physical. It's like your body's reacting to your relationships, to your work, to your lifestyle and your body wants you to be happy. It like just that idea of that. It's good to be happy. I love that it's.

Liz Ellery:

Isn't that funny that nine years later you know, I'll always remember him saying that to me are you happy? And it was actually what's really interesting how we met. So when I was at the hospital I was waiting to be seen and it was in, you know, the A&E place because I thought I had like kidney stones. I mean, you know, I think when you have that, you really are hobbled over and I was in a lot of pain and I was outside talking because the weekend so this is happening on the Monday or the Tuesday, and the weekend before I'd just been to a lunch in Somerset with an author of this book that I'd read and it was her second book and the first one I'd read was the book that changed my life and basically changed the course of everything that to where I am today and it was Jen Sincero's you Are a Badass. And she wrote a second one you Are a Badass at Making Money.

Liz Ellery:

And just that weekend I'd been to a lunch where her coaching friend was hosting this lunch and I asked Jen. I said you know I've been reading your books and you talk about getting coaching and I want to get a coach. I wonder if you know I've been reading your books and you talk about getting coaching and I want to get a coach. I wonder if you can recommend any or if you ever do it. And she said I don't do it, but Kat, who's hosting this lunch? She is a really good friend of mine and she's a great coach. And then I decided I think I want to work with her. I think I want to work with her, and I was on a sales call or I was in touch with someone that was working on her sales team that would take her discovery calls, and I was in touch with her outside the A&E department.

Aideen Ni Riada:

So that's the new coach.

Liz Ellery:

No, it was the saleswoman for the coach, okay. It was the saleswoman for the couch, okay. And because Kat was busy and she like has other people that were taking these calls for her at the time, and I just remember speaking to her before I went in and then I had the, the coach and the doctor say are you happy? And I was like no, and then I went back outside and I called up um, her name was Rachel and I called her up and I said I want to work with Kat and it was a very, you know, it was a very um high investment for me, especially at the time with my fashion design salary and, and I think we have these moments in our lives that are catalysts. One was the book. Then it was working with Kat, and from that I quit my job and just sort of trusted that the net would catch me, and it did and then um and then I met you a couple of years later through cat.

Liz Ellery:

That's where a program she did.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Yeah, it's so interesting because I have Jen Sinceros and I have some of her post-it notes and you know um fridge magnets and I have one here in front of me says be grateful for all that you are and all that you are becoming.

Liz Ellery:

Oh, she's, she's so good and the becoming thing is very interesting. If you'll allow me to talk about this a little bit.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Yes, encourage you to talk about it please.

Liz Ellery:

I have. I have been on a real personal development journey, the last since reading that book and when I left that my job, um, within six months after working with Kat um and doing a course with her and I think it was the course that I met you on um, after we did our one-to-one work, I had been single for a very long time and I went to the doctor, said I'm not feeling very great, I'm feeling a little bit depressed, I feel like there's, you know, something wrong with me and I ended up getting some therapy through the NHS and it was really wonderful and it you explore a lot of stuff from your childhood and you go through all of these things and what came across was that I was a very confident person but I had low self-esteem and I didn't know what that meant and that confidence and self-esteem were different at the time. All of this was new to me and I think I've been on a journey and the self-esteem is how I feel very confident in my skills as a web designer and as a creative and with my friends. But when it came to romantic um feelings, my and and how I felt about myself and looks and all of that sort of stuff or like how I was eating and all the health stuff, and I've just been on a journey with that.

Liz Ellery:

I've done hypnotherapy and done all of the work that they say to do and like be kind and be kind to yourself, and I always remember thinking, you know, the woman that I want to be is this, and the woman that I want to be is that. And I just had an epiphany about a week or so ago and all of these things, that I wanted this, that I imagined this woman to be, and I have a vision board and I have like visuals of, you know, maybe, the healthy, nutritious food she's eating and she's looking after her body and she's exercising and she's taking care of herself and loving herself and saying all these nice things to herself. And I've really just been doing that. And then I just, yeah, I had this thing where I was like I'm the woman that I wanted to be, I am her, and I know it's a case of you know, we've always been that person, but I think it's until we realize it ourselves.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Then that's the aha moment yeah, and it's the journey as well, because five, ten years ago there were so many gaps that you weren't fully in that identity yet. And you've filled in so many of those gaps and you've you've been so brave, it's.

Aideen Ni Riada:

It takes a lot of courage to face ourselves yeah yeah, it's been been hard yeah, it is the thing I think a lot of people feel like if they are in any way not right or if they are um, you know, if they're not perfect in some way, that they should be hard on themselves. But there's a case for loving yourself, no matter where you are at in your journey or how any mistake that you've made, like love yourself when you're broke, love yourself when you're rich, love yourself when you're fat, when you're skinny, when you're with a guy, when you don't have a guy to be able to accept yourself, even when you're it's an uncomfortable moment, that's. It takes some work, it takes some, it takes a lot of kindness. So I I remember reading a great book called self-compassion by Kirsten Neff and I loved that book because she was really just saying you deserve to be compassionate to yourself and a lot of us are too hard on ourselves definitely yeah, I think we are and I think it's funny.

Liz Ellery:

Quite a bit of my journey is around, probably about self-image and also food and, um, I read two really incredible books, um, at the end of last year or the year before and it was a bit. Sometimes it's these books that really changed my life. Um, I'm hugely into like developing yourself, like that, and one of them was from Shuru Azadi and it was called the Last Diet and it's all about, um, you know, eating to nurture yourself and not having all of these, um, you know, eating to nurture yourself and not having all of these weird feelings that we can have around food. And then the other one was Davinia Taylor and that was called it's Not a Diet and she talks about not calorie counting but counting chemicals and, you know, just eating nourishing food that feels good.

Liz Ellery:

And it was those books really that have just helped me calm down the chatter in my brain around food and around how I see myself, and it was just, it's just been such a nice process to just be like I feel really good about myself because I'm eating well and it is, you know, and knowing that if I do have foods that are generally comfort foods like that maybe are a bit more ultra processed or something, then that's okay, but I think in the past, when I would do that, it just left me feeling not great and a bit groggy and um, yeah, like when you're eating like that all the time.

Liz Ellery:

So, anyway, it's just, I feel like that's one of the final pieces in like me just feeling much better about myself because I feel like eating lots of vegetables or your protein or however you take your protein in, whether that's beans or meat, and and drinking well, and you know, I stopped drinking things like pepsi max all the time, which I was drinking a lot of and um, starting to eat dark chocolate instead of other things. And I can't believe I'm even going into the food thing here on this podcast.

Aideen Ni Riada:

I didn't expect this, but it has been definitely a final jigsaw puzzle for me well, it's part of this self-kindness, this, yeah, looking after yourself and it's we're a whole person like it's. It's a holistic thing to be able to look after yourself in that way.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Um, I think it's a really important message and I'm really happy you opened up a bit about it yeah thank you, yeah, but let's talk a little more about branding and you know this stepping into your power and being able to be seen by others for the gifts that we have, because that's really what you help people to do. Your clients are falling in love with their online presence because it matches who they are right.

Liz Ellery:

So the reason why I started this was because when I was looking for a coach started this was because when I was looking for a coach I was, you know, just googling ones locally to me. When I was in London, in Notting Hill, I was. I was typing coaches in Notting Hill and I just didn't emotionally connect with any of them. And that's when I knew I've got this superpower or my zone of genius with the intuition. But also I could. I do photography as well. I don't do that as much, but I knew that I could really capture somebody's essence with photographs and make them feel at ease and comfortable, and I think having good imagery on a website is really important. But then when I was talking with my clients and this is something, a skill I've, I think I've always had I've been always been very empathetic, like an empath.

Liz Ellery:

I'm very interested in getting to know my clients and general passion and curiosity for who they are and why they're doing what they do. So when you some of my other friends that are web designers, you know they enjoy the design part of it, so they will stack lots of projects. They'll maybe do like five projects to ten at one time and it will be very hands-off with the client. They will fill in their documents and, you know, not have much call time with one another because that's not what they enjoy, whereas for me, I enjoy the people aspect. So when I get to know who they are and their energy and stuff and they're, it's a very vulnerable thing.

Liz Ellery:

I think when you're, when you're either beginning a business or you're up-leveling in your business like you are, or like a change of direction, I often find that you kind of know what you want to do, but sometimes you get a little bit lost with how to articulate that visually and in the written word. And I know that, after so many years of doing this and working with so many service-based businesses that are also, you know, very heart-led, um, that I'm able to listen to their stories and just get their energy and their aura a little bit, so that when they'll always do a Pinterest board for me and I can really pinpoint the exact imagery that I really like, that I feel like matches you, and that's what we did with yours.

Liz Ellery:

But, it's also and this is like really in the later years, because the more I've done, this is like really being able to tap into what it is that you're trying to say, and I think it's very difficult for us as individuals to.

Liz Ellery:

I think we all notice that we can give advice to somebody else very easily, but it's very difficult for us to take our own advice or give it to ourselves.

Liz Ellery:

So when you're writing your website copy or deciding what you want to do in your business or how to put this messaging across, it can be quite tricky. And because I've heard all of the the nuances between what you're trying to say and like maybe find the golden thread that when I get the copy back generally from the client, I can look at it and be like, hmm, I feel like this is not quite getting across who you are, or you said that you wanted to do this and like we were actually, say, for my clients that are transitioning, um, I was working with a guy recently and he's a coach, but he's such an incredible speaker and he wants to do more speaking at like festivals and in corporate environments and um, and also at schools and stuff to like help the younger generation dealing with their emotions. But he kept on the copy, kept on going to coaching land and when we were talking on a call he kept on saying, well, with my one-to-one clients and I'm like, yes, but we're trying to do the speaker thing and it's about helping you position the authority that you want to be moving into. So I would say some advice.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Sorry if I'm rambling here, but this is so useful, though, so I don't want to stop you okay.

Liz Ellery:

So I would say to anybody that is starting a business or also you know, when you're doing a personal brand at work and stuff, how you want to get yourself across. I really would like get a big piece of paper and just sort of say what are the objectives of what I'm trying to do? And so, for instance, with my, my previous client, his objective was that he wanted to be a speaker and show his authority in this, and he's got lots of great testimonials as well. So when you keep on going back to what you know or what you did, you've got to keep on looking back at that objective of like what you're doing.

Aideen Ni Riada:

The becoming part.

Liz Ellery:

The becoming part.

Liz Ellery:

Yes, exactly, and so for you, when we were doing your website, you know you had the singing was what you used to do, but you would when we would have our chats and you would say all of the different ways that you would help people, you know I was like, well, we really need to make sure that we're getting that across in your copy. And a lot of the time my clients might have lots of different um skill sets that they've accumulated over the years. You know, for instance, like with my more spiritual client, she is an artist, she's an author, she's a reiki master. She is, like, really works a lot with crystals and expert in that, but she's not going to teach you, you know, how to do one of those things or say this is how I'm going to help. What she's helping with is a transformation and maybe becoming a spiritual mentor for somebody that's struggling, and she'll use all of these different um tools, toolkits. But I think sometimes we can get, as you know, business owners, we can get so um stuck in the minutiae or miniature.

Aideen Ni Riada:

I can never say that word no, but I know what you're talking about transformation, you know yeah and it's like the whole is greater than all the parts.

Aideen Ni Riada:

But we, especially like I mean I, my whole thing has always been about confidence. Like I use singing to help people to find their confidence. But then, as the journey went along, I was using all of my other tools to help them with confidence. I was doing mantra meditation with them, I was doing affirmations, I was doing, like you know, guided meditations, whatever it was they needed, because that was the way I worked. I would just relate to that person on that day and I would be guided how to move that them along.

Aideen Ni Riada:

But my website didn't. It didn't hint to that enough. And so the new website, with your help, I think it represents me more, and I actually got a great um, um testimonial for it from some someone that my husband knows. He was like the minute you open the website, it just makes you feel like you can step into confidence. Or he just said it was so inspirational that just the way that it looked straight away and that's an energy like I've. I feel like this, like there's an. There's something that I'd love to talk a little bit to you about, which is the energy that comes through once you do have the right visual and the right copy. There's some feeling of alignment and this is the reason I picked you to do my website.

Aideen Ni Riada:

When I looked at other websites you'd done I, I could feel an energy from them. I could feel a warmth. I could sense that the person that I was, that I was reading about, you know, was a real person. It didn't have that bland corporate. It's like a brochure with services, you know, coaching, uh, whatever it is it. It wasn't cold. There was, as such, an energy coming through it and I think that that's why my like someone else, could put together a nice website. But having you help me at my website, I think, really helped me capture an energy that people can feel then when they look at it yeah, I agree, I think that's.

Liz Ellery:

I think energy is really important and I think you can absolutely do that with design, website design and you know I I was talking with um. I signed a new client yesterday and she showed me she just bought a course that was um helping her with. She was. The course was about online business manager course and um, I looked at the website and I immediately felt, you know and I, and it wasn't the most well-designed website, but I felt such a nice energy from it. She, she just looked nice and friendly and the colors were soft and that really resonated with me and I just felt a warmth to her, whereas there might be somebody that's got like a really bold, vibrant, spicy, passionate sort of personality and it's like they might be quite blunt and to the point, and that energy will attract somebody else.

Aideen Ni Riada:

That's like, really like they need someone's wavelength, yeah it needs somebody direct, which is not my style. I'm quite blunt, actually myself I'm quite direct, but you say it in such a kind way that nobody can take it badly but it's, but it's in a different way and I think.

Liz Ellery:

But that energy really does matter and it needs to match your frequency of how you are in person, because that's when somebody lands on your site and they're like I like this person, um, and there are some people that I'm just find jarring, and that's okay, because what that does is it? It filters through the people that aren't meant for you and um, and that's why I you know a lot of my stuff is referral based, to be honest.

Aideen Ni Riada:

But so what would you say? My website, yeah, I mean, I just think I can understand why people would recommend you, because it's it's a real. It's a lovely thing to have your authentic truth and your self reflected back. That's what you do, is. You helped me to see myself very clearly, which allowed me to make the right decisions for the website. Um, but I'm curious what you would say to someone who hasn't tuned into that energy part yet and maybe isn't trusting that you know. You know because we can make our minds up right or we can trust that heart, or we can trust that intuition. So what advice would you give to someone maybe that's starting to learn to lean into intuition more?

Liz Ellery:

I. This is interesting because, you know, the first four years of my career or business, I didn't like my own website and I think that was probably largely due to the fact that I didn't know who I was and I was on a huge journey. I spoke about it with the personal development and my self-esteem and stuff like that, and I think that's okay and it's just part of where you're at and you know. You know we're talking about websites at the moment, but, like, when you are just going through those phases, you know I and to do, you know I don't mean to be bringing it back to the weight thing, but you know I, at the beginning of lockdown, so gosh, like over four years ago, I lost a lot of weight and I lost identity of self. I didn't know what clothes I wanted to wear anymore or like what would suit me, and then that was quite a bit of my identity was weirdly wrapped around that. And then you know, the woman I wanted to be or like was becoming. I just felt a bit of an identity crisis, to be honest. So, when it comes to intuition, I just kept on going, you know, and just small steps on the path and I would say again, I'm going to use another client, a recent client I was speaking with. I feel like they're at the big they're still not at the end point of their journey where they feel very settled and comfortable in themselves maybe.

Liz Ellery:

And when we were talking I felt like there was um trying to be like oh well, I, you know, sometimes I do this and I wear this and it's a bit mad and whatever.

Liz Ellery:

But then when we're having the conversation I really felt that she was very grounded and she liked being outdoors and stuff and she has like this fun, playful side.

Liz Ellery:

But I felt like it was a bit masking how she really felt and that she was a bit more of a softer like get stuff done and quite like bold, like that. But I could sense in her this other side and I would say, you know, if she might come to her photo shoot and like be wearing all of this elaborate fancy clothes that actually weren't integral to who she really was, so putting on more of a show, and I think that that's because you're doing what you think other people might want and not listening to your gut and who you are, and I think you should always try and do that. And when I look back at these photo shoots that I had, I was kind of maybe the me at the time, but none of it ever felt quite right. And then when I think I landed on my style and I don't mean to put it around clothes, obviously you know I was in fashion, design and stuff.

Aideen Ni Riada:

No, but it's there's something to this, because we're talking about trusting your intuition, we're talking about finding your true self, but it's the small choices that we make every day, like with like do you prefer chamomile tea or do you prefer coffee? And and really trusting your decision on that, I was chatting to someone last night about do you prefer coffee and really trusting your decision on that. I was chatting to someone last night about do you remember the movie Runaway Bride? Yeah, and Julia Roberts is in it, and no matter which relationship she's in, she always prefers the type of eggs that the partner likes. So when she's with one guy, she likes scrambled eggs, and when she's with the other guy, she likes omelets.

Aideen Ni Riada:

No-transcript. That's where we're testing. Well, maybe I like this style and then you wear it and then you're like maybe not anymore, or maybe I know some people are chameleons as well and can have different avatars that they use but I like that. You brought it back down to clothing and I would say, perhaps some of the listeners if you're wearing the same thing for a long time and you haven't, you know, swapped enough things out, are you stepping in? Have you allowed yourself to step into a new version of yourself? Because we're evolving internally all the time and if we don't allow our environment and what we wear and what we do to evolve with it, then we don't see the changes that want to come as quickly as they could.

Liz Ellery:

That's actually so again, when I said I had this identity crisis when I had lost this weight and I looked at all of the clothes that I had that weren't quite right for me anymore, but I was like God, this is like a different person. It wasn't about the weight, it was just like I've got this wardrobe of clothes that just don't feel like me anymore. And you know, you always feel like you're wasteful. You know like I can't get rid of this because it fits me. You know it's, it's this, but you just feel maybe a bit drab or you just feel like this is not my style anymore. And we're in this. You know we don't want to do waste or anything, but there are things in the UK I don't know if, wherever your listeners are you're in the US, like called Vinted, but then you've got eBay and and stuff where you could sell these things or give things to charity and or flea markets. Is it you guys have?

Liz Ellery:

um and uh and then. So what I ended up doing was and this was like one of the most empowering things for me is I knew I was having a photo shoot around this time and it's the one that's on my website. That feels so me, um, although I probably don't wear fancy shirts all the time anymore, but I love that shirt on you.

Liz Ellery:

What you had some sort of a silky shirt it was so, yeah, luxurious, gorgeous yeah, and I still like it for like my brand and stuff, but I maybe don't wear it on the all the time in the day, but I had this opportunity to be like who do I want to be like? And I always had this imagining of the sort of wardrobe I really wanted to wear. But I always thought, well, that's not for me and it was like a weird thing, right? So you and I are both into with our coach and stuff.

Liz Ellery:

We've we've done a lot of money mindset work right, and one of the little things I really love to do with money mindset to improve my money mindset is incremental upgrades. So one of them was I upgraded my towels. So my you know, my mum and dad had bought my towels, like at university or when I first moved to London, and I had these towels and it was like 10 years on but they were great quality towels, ok. And I remember thinking one day when I've made lots of money, I'm going to buy my towels from the white company. And I remember speaking to our coach.

Liz Ellery:

Actually, kat said, kat, I've just gone in and they've got like the basic range but then the extra, like the, the premium range is so soft and fluffy and my old towels were were purple so and and I always had this thing that I couldn't have white towels because that was like rich lady towels and like that's like I'm not the sort of person that could have white, fluffy white company towels. And Kat was like, get the fucking towel. And I was like I'm gonna get the fucking towels and I did and it's probably, that was probably one of my biggest incremental upgrades. So then when I had the clothing thing, I was like the woman I've always wanted to be like she dresses like in beige and camel and cream and white and I always wanted to like well, I don't know, it's because I'd I'd worn so much color in my twenties and I and I loved it and I still love color, but I just wanted to get more basics like that.

Liz Ellery:

That made you know some kind of rich, elegant yeah yeah, and I just thought I never felt like that was me. But then I was like who says, who says these rules and stuff and, um, you know, and I have my other stuff as well, and it's not all that, but it just when I re-got my wardrobe, it was like I just felt good in my new clothes.

Aideen Ni Riada:

I love this. I hope that the listeners appreciate this idea of can you step into who you're becoming and can you make that becoming something tangible, visible and real in your everyday life? I'm afraid we're getting close to the end of our time together. I'm really sad because I could keep talking to you forever. Yeah, is there anything that you'd like to say to anyone listening that you know, a piece of advice or something you'd like to reiterate from earlier?

Liz Ellery:

I think I've got two things that are really huge in my life at the moment.

Liz Ellery:

One is this sort of self-esteem issue and how good I feel and stuff at the moment, and I think a lot of that is down to just for so I never felt good enough and just realizing that really we are good enough wherever we are, and I just wish I'd sort of learned that or learned to be kinder to myself earlier on and just change the language going on inside of my head and just trying to when I would say these unkind words, I'm like that is so not true that you are so loved and you are wonderful, and just.

Liz Ellery:

I wish I'd got that piece a little bit earlier and really done the work to work on that, if, if that was a problem.

Liz Ellery:

And I think the other thing that is a huge thing that I do and that's having so much gratitude for my life, and you know gratitude that I've got my health, um, that I've taken the bold leap and moved to an area of the world that I love the Cotswolds that I can go out for lovely walks and I often I'll, more often than not, got quite emotional when I'm out on a walk and I'll just look and I'll be like, wow, look at where I am and look at this life that I've built for myself and just I have so much gratitude for my present moment and I think that when we look to the past and the future, we can get you depression and anxiety and overwhelm. But if you really ground yourself in gratitude and for where you are now and just always try and see the positive somehow in your day, then that just raises your frequency and makes you a lot of a happier person.

Aideen Ni Riada:

Yeah and it isn't easy. Yeah and it isn't easy. I know my for myself. Even this morning, I had negative talk going on in my mind just as I was waking up and I was like, oh, please just help, I need to remind myself to feel good. I need to remind myself what it is to feel good and I I think I've always felt I've got complete control over this and I can get myself back on track. But there are times when we'll feel a little low and we need help and we need support and we need others. I love that. Those, those two things it's the kind self-talk and the feeling gratitude for where you are that can bring you back back to feeling better again very quickly.

Liz Ellery:

Yeah, yeah, and it does, it does and um yeah thank you so much for being on the show today.

Aideen Ni Riada:

I've really really appreciated it and thank you for making my website look so amazing well thank you for being a wonderful client.

Aideen Ni Riada:

It was an absolute joy working with you well, I just, I just knew it was a good match, so I'll be sharing some of your contact details and your website. Everyone needs to go on to Liz's website and see her beautiful design and feel that energy as well, because you'll. You'll recognize it now, having listened to the podcast. And thank you again for listening to the Resonate podcast with A, with adine. We'll see you again at the next episode, take care. Bye.